I don’t feel comfortable sharing my personal business with strangers, but this wasn’t the case when I spoke with Oliver. As our conversations were over the phone, it didn’t matter if I, looked unkempt or pulled a funny face while I was crying - nobody was looking, I felt safe, I didn’t feel judged and somehow it was easy to tell my story, warts and all. For some reason talking over the phone is like chatting to a good friend??
Week one, it felt good to gain some perspective on how and why I was reacting the way I was. Oliver reassured me, told me I could stop berating myself - it wasn’t my fault!!! he gave me the tools, the confidence and the hope that I could and would move forward and that was such a relief.
Week two, I had a major shift during a particularly enlightening session. I wish I could adequately describe what happened, but the words wouldn’t do it justice. Suffice to say I could see and understand how past experience, moments in childhood, and or old conditioning can carry through into adulthood – and this didn’t take months to figure out and for me to understand!!!!
Week three, I wasn’t consumed by thoughts of my ex, I found optimism for the future, I found laughter, I started doing the things I’d previously enjoyed. Of course, I still had moments where I felt sadness but now I knew how to not let these moments consume and overwhelm me.
Week four, I started to wonder if this wasn’t all too easy… how come I didn’t have to go back and relive all my past issues.…. would my happiness come to a halt… would I revert back to depression and sadness when I didn’t have Oliver to talk to? That’s the good thing about having email, text and phone access – there’s reassurance and an explanation of how this process works – and it definitely does. Also, during this week I had a chance meeting with the ex, this was when I knew how much I’d grown and how much stronger I was. I didn’t crumble, fall to pieces, cry or feel sadness, in fact I came away feeling strong and empowered – I simply had the right tools to cope with the situation and it felt so good!
Week five, we chatted and recapped the overall process – I knew I could carry on without our sessions. I can’t thank Oliver enough for his calming voice of reason and understanding. With his help during the past FEW weeks, I know I’ll be fine in the future and that’s such a powerful and strong gift, something I’ll always be grateful for.