Emotions to determine what we think and how we behave or react / EMOTIONS DETERMINE THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOURS.Four example if you fear something, your thoughts will ‘talk you out’ of doing it and you will react or behaving in a way that avoids doing that ‘thing’.On the flip-side if you are excited about doing something, your thoughts will positively focus on that thing and you will do it with little to no resistance.Our emotions drive us to either DO things we do want to do, or to NOT do things we do want to do.Something is only a problem for you if it FEELS like a problem… if you feel neutral or positively towards something how can it be a problem?Think of it this way:Imagine that emotions are the foundations of a house.…That thoughts are the walls of a house.…And that behaviours are the roof.When the foundations are solid and stable, so too are the walls, and therefore the roof stays strong.Now if the foundations are wobbly and weak the walls won't be as supportive, resulting in the roof caving in or crashing down.For example if somebody FEELS confident (Stable foundations) they tend to think confident thoughts (stable Walls), which results in them behaving confidently (strong roof).Yet if they FEEL depressed (weak foundations) they will think negative thoughts (unstable walls) which results in them behaving in a depressed way; such as struggling to get out of bed, moping, slouching, etc. (broken/collapsed roof).Solid foundations determine stable walls and a strong roof…OR…EMOTIONS DETERMINE THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOURSThis is why, regardless of the problem, my focus is always to make changes at the emotional level (to repair the foundations). Because once those foundations are strong, so too are the walls and the roof!Unfortunately traditional talk therapies like counselling and psychology tend to focus mainly on the walls and sure if you spend A LOT of time reinforcing the walls, the roof ‘can’ become a little more stable… but ultimately the core emotional problem still exists which results in either more intense thoughts and behaviours developing down the track; or what is most common is that there is no change to the problem at all.So how am I able to help people remove fears within one session or to heal decades of emotional pain within 3 to 4 sessions…By making changes where the changes NEED to be made!
When a person experiences something traumatic, neurochemicals cause fragments from our senses (visual images, smells, sounds, tastes, or touch) to be stored in the emotional regions of the brain, but rather than being stored as a ‘movie’ in the mind, it is basically broken up ‘snapshots’, or pieces, which make up the overall traumatic memory.
Consequently, after trauma occurs, the brain can be easily triggered by any sensory input. For example hearing a song on the radio that was playing at the time of a car accident, or seeing a lit candle after experiencing severe burns from a fire, could trigger the recall of a traumatic memory, causing the person to feel as though they were back in it, re-traumatising all over again.
Another issue is that the fragments from the senses can get misinterpreted and the brain loses its ability to differentiate between what is threatening and what is normal.
It doesn’t help that when the body goes into fight, flight, freeze (survival) mode, it can shut down the higher reasoning, rational areas of the brain; the part where consciousness lives, causing the brain to become overwhelmed with internal chaos, resulting in the stress of the trauma becoming profoundly imprinted.
Neuroscience has shown that the frontal regions of the brain have limited ability to change the deeper parts of the brain, especially when the body is in a trauma response - And this is a key reason why traditional talk therapies, like counselling and psychology, have limited success with trauma resolution.
Talk therapy really only works when the brain is online and functioning, but when the rational part of the brain is offline, from being consumed by the traumatic memory, people actually may not hear a therapists words of reasoning, or be able to make meaning of the events or experiences. So instead of resolving the trauma, the person talks about it and constantly re-experiences the unwanted/painful emotions over and over again, essentially making the trauma even worse.
When the deeper parts are replaying the traumatic memory in the mind, the entire body is ‘back in that traumatic event’, as though it were happening as terrifyingly, or horrifically as the first time. This unfortunately reinforces and compounds the emotions and trauma as a whole.
My conversational Hypnotherapy approach involves guiding the deeper parts of the brain to bring significant fragments of a traumatic memory into consciousness, and once this occurs your own logic and reasoning can be used to resolve the trauma - and it happens very quickly, sometimes in as little as ten to fifteen minutes!
YOUR brain ‘created’ the traumatic response and YOUR brain is the only one who can resolve it, but it needs to be shown how to do so safely WITHOUT re-traumatising, and that is what my Conversational Hypnotherapy approach does.
If you would like me to provide you with a customised strategy for resolving your past trauma(s), book a free phone consultation with me now - https://oliverarmstrongtherapy.com/freecall